When He Stops Being The Great Guy You Know



It's happened to a lot of other ladies before. Now it's happened to you.

You meet a guy and you hit it off with him.

He's so into you, calls you all the time and talks to you for hours, talks to you about everything, tells you the nicest things you've ever heard, teases you, makes you feel so good.

You feel like you're in heaven.

Surely, you've never had it this good before, you've never felt this loved before, and you believe that it will last forever.

Then it happens to you.

The calls become less frequent.

The conversations become hurried.

The talks become ordinary, no longer deep.

He becomes very busy.

Too busy to call you and too busy to talk for too long.

At first, you keep calling because, I mean this person is your person.

Then you realize that it's become more than meets the eye.

You realize that the great guy is gone.

You realize it's happened to you.

What to do?

Well, you cry a little and then you move on.

Don't blame yourself.

Don't ask yourself what you did wrong, because frankly, in love there are no guarantees.

You just take a chance, put in your best and hope that it works out.

In love, there are lots of promises. Promises that are easily broken. Broken over a nicer body. Over a sweeter or a more sultry voice. Over a more intelligent mind. Over a more loaded purse. Over a freer spirit. Over a kinder and deeper soul. Over a sweeter personality. Or not.

Whatever the reason, the main gist is that all the promises he made you have flown with the birds and the relationship is irretrievably broken down.

So, you cry a little and then you move on.

Take a little time to heal and then on with life you must move. You must move on to another person because you don't give up on love. Love always happens. It just takes a little more time for some than for others.

Don't ever for once be afraid that you won't find someone else because you will. Only, this time, make sure you get with someone who makes decisions instead of promises. Promises are fickle, totally worthless. But decisions are weighty, dignified, solid, tangible.

The man who purposes in his heart to stay with his woman, be good to her and protect her is the kind of man you should be with. It's best to be with that type, for he will be by you come rain or shine.

Whatever you do, do not hold on to someone who is not holding on to you. Heck, he's probably with someone else already. Do not force closeness with him, do not force the pieces to fit.

Let go and be free.

You are beautiful.

You are awesome.

You are worth the whole world.

Please,  believe this and never forget it.

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