Raise Your Standards

Sometimes after a break up/divorce, you grieve and mourn the relationship. You miss the person terribly and wish things could be different and at other times, it's just good riddance.

Not every lost relationship deserves to be mourned. Some just happen for your liberation because you truly were in prison, you were terribly suppressed and tightly wound up.

Sometimes, you don't need to cry over a heartbreak. Instead, you laugh because you are free, you get your hand back. You raise your standards and you do better next time.

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