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Choose Right

Someone once asked me, “How can you still be so tender, after walking through so much hurt?” And I answered, “It is precisely because of the hurt I have walked through.” Pain is a teacher dressed in shadows. To some, it becomes a poison that corrodes their spirit, leaving them cruel, bitter, and unkind. But to others - to those who listen closely - pain becomes the chisel that carves out compassion, the fire that tempers the heart into gentleness. When you have sat alone in the darkness, aching for a voice that whispers, “You are not alone,” you learn to be that voice. When you have longed for a hand to lift you from the ashes, you decide that your hands will never push another soul into the flames. That is the sacred alchemy of suffering: it can turn anguish into tenderness, wounds into wisdom, sorrow into love. But healing, ah, healing is not easy. It asks you to unclench your fists when rage begs for vengeance. It asks you to soften when hatred promises power. It asks you to re...

Gratitude

One day, it struck me like a quiet thunder; I had forgotten myself. I had wandered so far into caring for everything else that I became invisible to my own heart. I did not even notice when I stopped listening to my feelings, when I silenced the whispers of my soul. At first, I lied to myself. I told myself it didn’t matter. I told myself my pain was silly, unworthy of attention, too small to be honored. But truth has a way of waiting, patiently, until you cannot ignore it any longer. And I, I have never been one to deny myself the freedom of truth. So I admitted it. I cared. More deeply than I ever knew. And when I finally confessed that to myself, the tears came like rain, washing me clean. I let them fall, and with them, I let myself breathe again. And in that breath, I remembered: the world is still beautiful. Even with its shadows, it is overflowing with light - billions of souls waiting to connect, billions of opportunities waiting to unfold. I have learned that I must look b...

Marry Your Kind

Please, marry your kind... If you truly want peace in your home and joy in your marriage, choose someone whose spirit aligns with yours. Bros , if makeup, human hair, jewelry, and glamour do not appeal to you, that is fine, but then seek a woman who shares those values. Do not pursue a vibrant, expressive woman and then try to silence her brightness after marriage. Do not marry a strong-minded woman hoping to bend her into submission. That is not love, that is control, and it will only bring sorrow to both of you. Sis , please don’t put on a mask just to win a partner. Pretending to be someone you are not is not love, it is self-denial. No one can wear a disguise forever, and when it slips, pain follows. Be proud of who you are. Be true to yourself. That authenticity will draw to you the one who is meant for you. Bros , if a spirited woman captures your heart, be honest with yourself. If you cannot honor her as she is, then do not invite her into your life under false pretenses. It...

You Are Enough

Sometimes, it feels like no one cares about you. It feels like you don't even matter to them. It feels like you are an afterthought. And you feel bad because you are the type to worry about everyone, you show how much you care for them, you give them so much of you... It definitely will hurt bad if they don't accord the same courtesy to you when you need them to. But it's alright. Truth is, people are not always going to be there for you, friends and family will disappoint you, even when they swear that they will be by you always, and when that happens, you may feel lost and alone. But you need to know this, that inside of you is the kind of warmth that no mortal can give you. What you do is this, you wrap your arms around your body and focus on the warmth within you. Let it generate from its place within you. Let it permeate your entire being and you will understand that even though no man is an island, even though we need people in our lives, even though another ...

Sometimes You Have To Treat People The Way They Treat You

Some people are confirmed time wasters. They have nothing to do with their time so they have no conscience in their intrusion on yours. They get you to believe in them only for them to keep you hanging. They are selfish, they only think of themselves and what they will benefit from you all the while having other options. When they find someone with more benefits than you, they toss you aside and only remember you when they need something from you. They recognizable by their flighty attitude, they change their mind at will, they are unfocused, they change plans often and are so unpredictable. They make other plans and don't carry you along until you notice their absence and reach out to them and that's when they grudgingly tell you what they are doing, if ever. Listen to me, stop being a doormat to people. Be nice and kind to those who are same to you. Stop being a matyr, you will only get stoned to death. Listen to me, if you don't think of yourself, people would hardl...

A Kind Way To It

Sometimes, we look back on a past relationship and we smile, even wistfully. Other times, it is a whole lot of negative emotions; anger, pain, sadness, bitterness or even nausea. Bad things happen, this we know, and most of the time, there's no easy way to tell someone we are leaving them, there's no comforting way to hear it, but no matter how things turn out, if we must leave that person, we really should try to be as kind as possible. We really should learn to not plant grudges in people's hearts for us. If we must leave, we should do so as amicably as possible. If we truthfully tell that person that it is not working out and we need to move on, I believe they would understand. Maybe not immediately but eventually, they will recognize what we did and respect us for it. What are you putting into your relationships? Are you making quality memories? The kind of memories that would evoke warmth after the love is gone? Would you be sorely missed if you left or would yo...

Taking Care Of Yourself Is The Best Selfish Thing You Can Do

Just thinking about how worthless feelings are, how badly they can ruin a person, especially when you have no control over them. Feelings have cost many people so much. Feelings are capable of crippling the most level-headed person. It can cause the most intelligent person to fail woefully at their best. Logic is the quickest way to climb. The more logical you are, the more successful you are. I have noticed that most successful people hardly ever indulge in frivolities, they discard quickly anything or anyone that would slow down their progress. They come off as selfish, mechanical. The emotional or nice person on the other hand gets burned over and over again because they have their head up in the sky. They shy away from reason. They see it as it is but they refuse to accept it, especially when it concerns them. Oh, do they give the best advice! Which is true of the saying that the people who give the best advice need it the most. These are the people who are always badly ...