Taking Care Of Yourself Is The Best Selfish Thing You Can Do

Just thinking about how worthless feelings are, how badly they can ruin a person, especially when you have no control over them.

Feelings have cost many people so much. Feelings are capable of crippling the most level-headed person. It can cause the most intelligent person to fail woefully at their best.

Logic is the quickest way to climb. The more logical you are, the more successful you are.

I have noticed that most successful people hardly ever indulge in frivolities, they discard quickly anything or anyone that would slow down their progress. They come off as selfish, mechanical.

The emotional or nice person on the other hand gets burned over and over again because they have their head up in the sky. They shy away from reason. They see it as it is but they refuse to accept it, especially when it concerns them. Oh, do they give the best advice! Which is true of the saying that the people who give the best advice need it the most.

These are the people who are always badly treated or who get dumped because they are too nice and giving, these are the people who remain in terrible marriages because they forgive a particular wrong over and over again, these are the people who remain stuck in jobs where they are completely miserable, these are the people who are always struggling one way or the other. They are completely selfless, afraid to make others feel bad, thereby living in misery every single day of their lives. They come off as too soft or even weak. Some even call them "Angels" because they don't stop loving and giving, even when it displeases them. They love unconditionally.

As we grow older, we should get wiser. Truth is, you must look out for yourself. It is absolutely important that you do. Your well being is too important to be overlooked. You are not Jesus Christ and you will never be. Selfish is good sometimes. You must stop being selfless in toxic relationships, it will do you no good because someone who really cares for you would never deliberately hurt you. If it's happened more than once, then it is deliberate. That person is unrepentant in causing you pain.

Why would you want to be with someone who makes you cry all the time, who makes you feel worthless and unloved? Why would you want to have someone like that on a pedestal, unwilling to accept that they are not the great person they want you to believe that they are? Why would you want to be 'benched' when you can be on someone else' stage?

Get out. Go shine someplace. If you can't find someone else just yet, shine on your own. And even after you do find them, maintain your shine, maintain your stage, maintain your individuality.

You really don't need a man to be happy. No man can give you the happiness that you must have because you are still you. No matter how deeply you bond with that person, you are still separate from them. That is why you can be angry, cranky or moody when they are not. That is why you can desire a different meal than they do. That is why your opinion can be different than theirs. Even in your oneness with them, you are still you, so If you are not happy single, you will hardly be happy in a relationship.

Be kind but not to your own detriment. When you begin to feel burdened or stifled, it is time to discard the root cause of that negative energy and get on with your life. You shouldn't remain in a toxic relationship when you can have a beautiful one with someone else.

You have this one life and you shouldn't waste it on people you mean nothing to, people who have no regard for your wellness, people who wouldn't care less if you jumped off a cliff. Stop climbing mountains for people who won't even take one staircase for you. You can be selfish too.

Think about it.